Your Tag Size Doesn't Define You or Your Style

I want to tell you something I had to learn the hard way: the number on your tag does not define you or your style.

For years I watched clients hold onto clothes two sizes down “for when.” I did it myself. I kept a stack of jeans from a year ago that felt like they were a promise I owed myself. Meanwhile, the clothes that actually fit me, today, sat in the back of the closet because wearing them felt like giving up and not achieving my size back then..

A diverse collection of colorful clothing on hangers showcasing a range of fashion styles.

Here’s what I’ve come to believe. Dressing for the size you are now isn’t giving up. It’s showing up! It’s the difference between waiting for your life to start and actually living it in the body God gave you.

The size you are now only has power over you if you let it decide what you’re allowed to wear, where you’re allowed to go, and how loudly you’re allowed to show up. That’s a lot of power to hand over to a number that changes anyway, for a hundred reasons that have nothing to do with your worth. Factors like hormones, medications, aging, or mental health are often the silent architects behind that shifting number. Navigating these changes can feel like an uphill battle, but it is time we simplify the way we show up for ourselves.

Low angle of crop faceless overweight female in activewear reflecting in mirror in sports club

So here’s what I tell my clients, and what I’m telling you today. Buy the thing that fits now. Don’t shrink yourself into the items you love because they are not the only clothes in the world! Let go of the “when I” pile, even if it’s just one item at a time. Your job right now isn’t to dress for a future or past body. It’s to dress for the woman who has a meeting, a first date, a hard conversation, a presentation or just a regular Tuesday, right now.

As women, we need to stop putting our confidence on hold until we hit a size on a tag or a number on a scale. You deserve to feel put together and powerful in any size, at all stages of your life, not just “someday.”

Smiling plus-size woman in a fashionable purple dress posing indoors with greenery.

So this week I am going to challenge you to get rid of 2-3 items that no longer fit you or your lifestyle. Donate them to someone who could use it, or resell it. The point is, focus on clothes that are you now!